The Best Reads of 2023

It’s time to wrap my reads of 2023 in a bow, and crown my top three favorite reads of the year!

This year, I read 17 books. Every last one of them was “read” by listening them through Audible. And it’s time for me to narrow down what I’d recommend to a friend if she were to need a new book to pick up this new year.

-3- Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelby Van Pelt :: I love a story the follows different characters that don’t seem inter-related only to find out that they do in fact have a connection. I loved this sweet Octopus. I loved Tova and her quirks, and the way that she grew to love Marcellus, the octopus. It was such a beautiful story, easy to follow, and just a fun little read.

-2- Sparks Like Stars by Nadia Hashimi :: I’m also a sucker for a book that let’s me flip back and forth between present day and the past. Trying to piece together what events made these characters act and behave in the ways they do in present day. What has shaped their thoughts, their lives. What has caused them trauma. I loved the way the main character had to grapple with the way her past came to meet her in her present. Great book!

-1- The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah :: Kristin Hannah does no wrong in my book. Her books captivate me. The writing, the characters, the way their stories interweave with each other. They break my heart and leave me endeared to them forever, and the Nightingale was no different. This book is set in World War II, and follows how women were able to assist in the war effort in Nazi held areas, risking their lives and flying under the radar because of their sex. It was simply fantastic and well deserved of my top spot for 2023!

Happy Advent!

It’s December! And this house has FINALLY turned a corner on all of the sicknesses. I’ve slept in my OWN bed for several nights without being woken up. Coughs are subsiding. And my goodness, it’s December and time to look forward to the holidays.

Last year, I began a journey to make our advent season more intentional. I love the anticipation of the season, but wanted to feel like we could do a little bit each day to celebrate the season and build up to the celebration of the birth of the Christ child. In particular, I wanted our advent season to focus on the joy of giving. And thus, we began doing an advent calendar that incorporated some fun activities for the boys, and various ways to “Be the Gift” in the holiday season.

The boys are still so young, but I want them to grow up having always looked for ways that they could show kindness and love to others.

I’m sharing two pages of printable advent prompts with ideas of how to Be the Gift this season for little kids (and big kids alike!)

Hoping your advent season is full of meaning and expectation as we get ready to welcome the Christ child this year.

When It Rains, It Pours

Friends. We just can’t seem to catch a break. Poor Nathan was diagnosed with pneumonia now. And I’ve got little Aidan home with me full time because of additional potential exposure to a stomach bug. And you guys, I’m just hanging by a thread. I’m going to take care of my people this week, and try to get us back on track. While knocking on every piece of wood in this house that somehow we are out of the woods with illnesses for awhile. This mama is tired. Hoping your households are healthy!

Thanksgiving 2023

I seem to remember I had planned last year a post to share some pictures and stories from Thanksgiving. And then we all ended up so absurdly sick.

And here I am to share some pictures and stories from Thanksgiving 2023, and what I have to share is we must be cursed on this holiday. For a second year in a row, the entire family was so sick. First, COVID got passed around through everyone.

The ol positive test….

And then just when we thought we were out of the woods, Nathan woke up with a fever again on Thanksgiving only to find out later that weekend that it was the flu.

Thanksgiving sicky crew reporting their family picture.

We did manage to decorate the tree…

And then I redecorated it after they went to bed….

And then it snowed…and it looked pretty for the morning and the boys were excited to play.

And that was our Thanksgiving. Remains to be seen how the rest of this week goes and if anyone else gets sick. Crossing my fingers, toes, hair….legs….basically everything. Hope your Thanksgiving was more restful!

My Little Thankful Turkeys

Our little turkeys have been creating their annual thankful turkeys this month. It’s so fun to see how the things they are thankful for changes year to year. Their maturity and understanding of gratitude has changed so much in a single year. Here are a few of my favorites from each boy this year…

Harrison:

Right off the bat, Harrison’s day one thankful item was Jesus & God with Day 2 followed up with hi family. I don’t think there is a more first-born answer on day one and two than that. This contrasted sharply with Jonathan’s day 1 thankful item…you’ll have to read on for that. 🙂

Aidan made it onto Harrison’s thankful turkey three times. Can you tell Aidan is the favorite? First as part of his family, loving Aidan the most. Then as part of his brothers. And finally just a flat out thankful for “Aidan.”

I know he must be learning something at school when out of nowhere he’s thankful for his “community.” Let me tell you something that we’ve never discussed with him….what the word community even means.

Jonathan:

In true second/middle child fashion, Day 1, Jonathan was thankful for Mowers & Tractors. Need I say more?

Aidan, again, made it onto Jonathan’s thankful turkey with a special call out in his family. And also, Jonathan was thankful for Aidan’s paci and loveys. I’m not sure why that is….maybe he cries too much? Maybe because Jonathan also is thankful for his own lovey? Who knows…

And I just need to point out how many yard and tractor items made this turkey. Five days. Five days of being thankful for various things related to yard work and tractors. He’s a man of simple pleasures.

I’m taking next week off from both blog world and work to focus on our family, decorate for Christmas, and hopefully have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Fingers crossed – because last year I had a house full of sickies for Thanksgiving.

Hope you all have a wonderful holiday as well!

Ski Trip Planning: Buy or Rent?

Nathan started taking Harrison on an annual ski trip when he was three. Nathan plans the trip, books everything, and handles the daily activities, grocery runs, etc. involved in the trip. This upcoming year, Jonathan will get to join in on the annual ski trip now that he’s three, and we are busy making sure we have all of the gear that we need for them in Colorado.

I didn’t grow up skiing, and have absolutely no desire to learn at this point in my life. My dream is to be able to have three little boys that love to ski with their dad, and a little alone time for mom to get a massage or drink hot chocolate and read by the fire while the boys take on the mountain. Needless to say, I had a lot to learn to prep Harrison for his first ski trip, and we’ve found what works for us so far.

I’m sharing today what we’ve preferred to buy and pack versus what we rent for the very short trip.

But first…here’s a little look at my boys on their ski trip last year…

Things We Buy:

Snowbibs: We buy good quality snowbibs for the boys. As much as possible, I buy them secondhand from a site like Poshmark. Good quality snowbibs are expensive, and kids grow…a lot. So truly, I buy Harrison snowbibs, and then they get passed down from one boy to the next. Obermeyer snowbibs have been great for us so far, and withstand our roughest child on clothes, Harrison.

Long underwear: For a three day ski trip, I send three sets of long underwear for each boy. Most of the time, they can get by with just one set a day, and ideally don’t have to do any laundry. And at the worst case, if one set gets wet, they can let it dry and re-use if necessary later in the trip.

Wool socks: My favorite are SmartWool for the boys. Tall wool socks are important so that it covers most of their calf up to their knee. I assume one pair per day plus an additional two sets for each kid.

Ski goggles: We buy ski goggles for each boy. We have Oakley, Giro, and Smith. All of these brands have worked well and are good quality.

Ski coat: Similar to snowbibs, I buy a winter snow coat for each boy and then it gets passed down. I try to buy secondhand through a site like Poshmark, and buy a good quality one that will last us a loooong time given that I’m hoping they will last through three boys. Most importantly, I buy a bright color coat. More than anything else, this has been the most helpful for Nathan to make sure he can easily spot the boys on the mountain and at ski school. Red, bright blue, neon – it all works. Just not black or navy for us.

Snow basics: Hat, mittens (at least two sets!), snowboots, and scarf. The only thing special about these items, is that the mittens have a velcro strap to keep them tight around their wrist like these. I bought Harrison both a scarf ring and a baclava, and Harrison only ended up ever wearing the scarf.

Things We Rent:

Skis: The boys only go skiing once a year, so it doesn’t make sense for us to buy skis for them to only be used once a year. Nathan has been contemplating buying his own skis, especially if we continue to go on this annual trip, it probably makes sense for him to just own skis.

Helmet: We’ve contemplating buying boys helmets, but have decided that similar to the skis, it just doesn’t make sense for us with how little we go skiing and how fast their heads grow. Nathan did buy a helmet for himself, though, last year. He ended up picking out a Smith helmet, and he was happy with it!

Ski Boots: If I think their heads grow fast, their feet grow even faster. We will probably never buy the boys ski boots until their feet stop growing. Nathan did buy a pair for himself to have, though!

I’m working on convincing Nathan to help me write a post on planning a ski trip for little kids because that’s been by far the thing that we get the absolute most questions about every time they come back!

Lauren’s Fall 2023 Book Review

It’s been many months since my last book review…many months. So I’m just going to call this my fall book review. 🙂 As always, I listened to all of these books as audiobooks. I rarely have time to sit and read an actual book…not to mention I’m the slowest reader on the face of the planet. So all of these opinions are based on listening to these books!

First up, was Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus

Chemist Elizabeth Zott is not your average woman. In fact, Elizabeth Zott would be the first to point out that there is no such thing as an average woman. But it’s the early 1960s and her all-male team at Hastings Research Institute takes a very unscientific view of equality. Except for one: Calvin Evans; the lonely, brilliant, Nobel–prize nominated grudge-holder who falls in love with—of all things—her mind. True chemistry results.

But like science, life is unpredictable. Which is why a few years later Elizabeth Zott finds herself not only a single mother, but the reluctant star of America’s most beloved cooking show Supper at Six. Elizabeth’s unusual approach to cooking (“combine one tablespoon acetic acid with a pinch of sodium chloride”) proves revolutionary. But as her following grows, not everyone is happy. Because as it turns out, Elizabeth Zott isn’t just teaching women to cook. She’s daring them to change the status quo.

Laugh-out-loud funny, shrewdly observant, and studded with a dazzling cast of supporting characters, Lessons in Chemistry is as original and vibrant as its protagonist.

(Summaries from Amazon)

What I’d say about this book was that it was mostly pretty light. It went remarkably fast. I found myself easily able to track the story and characters even while listening to it. Elizabeth Zott, the main character, is lovely. I love her independence and absolute refusal to comply with the gender norms of the time. I will say that my dislike for the book is primarily due to how uncomfortable I feel when women are not allowed to just be themselves and are held to different standards than men. I realize that was the time and era of when this book was set, but man, it just grates at me.

If you’re someone who likes to read a book before it becomes a movie/TV show, then this one might be for you. It just came out as a show on Apple TV. It’s on my list to watch sometime over Thanksgiving or Christmas break!

Next, I listened to Honor by Thrity Umrigar

In this riveting and immersive novel, bestselling author Thrity Umrigar tells the story of two couples and the sometimes dangerous and heartbreaking challenges of love across a cultural divide.

Indian American journalist Smita has returned to India to cover a story, but reluctantly: long ago she and her family left the country with no intention of ever coming back. As she follows the case of Meena—a Hindu woman attacked by members of her own village and her own family for marrying a Muslim man—Smita comes face to face with a society where tradition carries more weight than one’s own heart, and a story that threatens to unearth the painful secrets of Smita’s own past. While Meena’s fate hangs in the balance, Smita tries in every way she can to right the scales. She also finds herself increasingly drawn to Mohan, an Indian man she meets while on assignment. But the dual love stories of Honor are as different as the cultures of Meena and Smita themselves: Smita realizes she has the freedom to enter into a casual affair, knowing she can decide later how much it means to her.

In this tender and evocative novel about love, hope, familial devotion, betrayal, and sacrifice, Thrity Umrigar shows us two courageous women trying to navigate how to be true to their homelands and themselves at the same time.

This book has incredible reviews, but for the same reasons that I struggled with Lessons in Chemistry, it absolutely destroys me when women are treated so poorly and unfairly. No matter how realistic and true to life that may be, it just truly bothers me. This book was well written, easy to listen to and follow, but the content was just absolutely heart wrenching. That coupled with the love story between the journalist covering the story and the Indian guide who helps her, and I just couldn’t really give myself over to this book. The love story felt thrown in like they felt it needed the romantic aspect to round out and draw in more readers. And it just wasn’t for me.

And lastly, I listened to The Wager: A Tale of Shipwreck, Mutiny and Murder by David Grann.

On January 28, 1742, a ramshackle vessel of patched-together wood and cloth washed up on the coast of Brazil. Inside were thirty emaciated men, barely alive, and they had an extraordinary tale to tell. They were survivors of His Majesty’s Ship the Wager, a British vessel that had left England in 1740 on a secret mission during an imperial war with Spain. While the Wager had been chasing a Spanish treasure-filled galleon known as “the prize of all the oceans,” it had wrecked on a desolate island off the coast of Patagonia. The men, after being marooned for months and facing starvation, built the flimsy craft and sailed for more than a hundred days, traversing nearly 3,000 miles of storm-wracked seas. They were greeted as heroes.

But then…six months later, another, even more decrepit craft landed on the coast of Chile. This boat contained just three castaways, and they told a very different story. The thirty sailors who landed in Brazil were not heroes—they were mutineers. The first group responded with countercharges of their own, of a tyrannical and murderous senior officer and his henchmen. It became clear that while stranded on the island the crew had fallen into anarchy, with warring factions fighting for dominion over the barren wilderness. As accusations of treachery and murder flew, the Admiralty convened a court martial to determine who was telling the truth. The stakes were life-and-death—for whomever the court found guilty could hang.

The Wager is a grand tale of human behavior at the extremes told by one of our greatest nonfiction writers. Grann’s recreation of the hidden world on a British warship rivals the work of Patrick O’Brian, his portrayal of the castaways’ desperate straits stands up to the classics of survival writing such as The Endurance, and his account of the court-martial has the savvy of a Scott Turow thriller. As always with Grann’s work, the incredible twists of the narrative hold the listener spellbound.

This book was recommended to me my Dad, and it was fascinating. It was so well researched and put together to take the listener through what it was like to be a seaman in the 1700’s, what they contended with on the waters and on shore. I enjoyed the dual lens of how two groups of sailors survived their shipwreck, what transpired on the desolate island, and how they made it back to civilization. I will say, I had to slow down my normal listening speed, because it was harder to keep up with the characters and the story due to the depth of the information. But overall, a good listen!

If you’re looking for a book to pick up this holiday season, here’s what I’ve read so far this year:

My 2023 Books:

  • January:
    • Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff
    • Christmas in Peachtree Bluff by Kristy Woodson Harvey
  • March:
    • The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver
    • Spare by Prince Harry
    • Sparks Like Stars by Nadia Hashimi
    • The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama
  • March/April:
    • The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah
    • Cribsheet by Emily Oster
  • June:
    • Shoe Dog by Phil Knight
    • The 5 Love Languages of Children
    • Remarkably Bright Creatures
  • August:
    • The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling (podcast)
    • I’ll Be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara
    • The Storyteller by Jodi Picoult
    • Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

Let’s Look…At Our Biggest Comforts

Happy Wednesday, friends!

It’s another edition of LET’S LOOK!

This is a little link-up where we “look” at different aspects of our lives. And today we’re looking at our biggest comforts in life.

My biggest comfort by far is my family and faith.

Having all of these people that have been entrusted to Nathan and me home, asleep in their beds, right where they belong safe and loved.

And faith…well, sometimes it’s felt like the only thing that has gotten me through some of my darkest days struggling with depression.

On a much lighter note, there are a few things that just comfort me whenever I’m feeling down or out of sorts…

To-do lists. And checking things off. It feels so good.

Love having an awesome candle burning day or night. It lifts my mood with the flickering of the flame and yummy smells.

A really long, super hot shower is one of the best comforts of life.

Followed by a huge bowl of Tonight Dough Ben & Jerry’s ice cream.

Time spent gardening. Planting, caring for, cutting flowers. So rewarding and comforting to create something beautiful in nature.

Re-watching Gilmore Girls for the thousand-eth time. Let me move to Stars Hollow, please…

Getting an area organized and purged so it’s functional AND pretty.

And last, but not least, my mom’s chocolate chip cookies. Forever a comfort.

7 Quick Jonathan Takes

Ooooooh man. Jonathan is at an age where every last thing he does is either unbelievably cute or unbelievably frustrating and annoying. He is every last bit of a three-nager. He’s stubborn, but knows he’s dang adorable. He’s everyone’s friend, and there are so many great things about him right now that may make this my favorite Jonathan quick takes yet.

-1- He asks every morning for us to read to him what’s being served for lunch and snack that day at daycare. And when he really likes something, he says, “Oooooooooh. Oatmeal bars. That’s my best!”

-2- I walked out of my room the other day in my new overalls thinking I looked cute, and Jonathan asked me, in all seriousness, why I was wearing my costume.

-3- He introduces himself to every single person as “Big J.” And it’s usually followed by a quizzical look from the adult to me – at which point I have to explain that he calls himself Big J, but his name is Jonathan.

-4- We somehow ended up with one random KU (University of Kansas) coozie that a friend must have left here at some point. Being K-State fans, we’re not really big supporters of KU. And somehow Jonathan caught on that Nathan always says, “Boo KU” when KU is mentioned. So now he looks for the “Boo KU” coozie – as though that is the proper name for the coozie.

-5- Refers to having a sweaty head as “Daddy’s brain is sweaty.”

-6- I’ve never noticed how many mowers there are in this world until Jonathan. And now each one is pointed out with a scream from the backseat of “MOWERS!!!!” In case you were wondering, you can find mowers just about everywhere.

-7- He asks each member of his family at dinner each night, “Thumbs up or thumbs down day, Dad?”

Friday Favorites {11.03.23}

Holiday weeks always feel long to me. Even though the kids had school every day this week, there’s something about a mid-week holiday celebration that gets me all out of whack on my days. And this weekend we’re going to throw in daylight savings time just to round up the craziness! Maybe my kids will sleep in their extra hour on Sunday. 🙂

We had a good and fun week, and can’t wait to share some of my favorites with YOU!

While the VERY cold weather meant that we had relatively few trick-or-treaters this year, we had SO MUCH FUN taking the boys out for Halloween. The neighborhood kids were running from door to door. And Harrison and Jonathan I’m pretty sure could have gone for another full block of houses…or two. But Mom and Dad were cold, so they had to resort to going back to the house to sort and sample their candy.

This post made me laugh out loud because I vividly remember my Dad having absolutely no recollection of who my fellow dance friends were even though he had been hearing about them and been around them for seven+ years.

The outcome of the Chiefs v Broncos game last weekend was definitely NOT a favorite. But having all of these little Chiefs fans keeping me company on the Chiefs couch, definitely was a favorite! Maybe they like cheering for the Chiefs because of the rise it gets out of their dad, but I’m not complaining either way.

I ran outside to take a picture of my fall mums before our nighttime temps started dipping down 20* the last few nights. Not sure they will survive that kind of cold spell, but I’m also ready for a gardening break for the winter.

That’s all for me this week! Hope you guys have a great weekend!